If your child or a young friend asks you questions about reproduction, anatomy, sex, and sexuality...

• Always use medically accurate terms and share factual information.
• Ask why they are asking and what they think.
• Be open, honest and non-judgmental.
• Make yourself available to talk and listen, and be supportive.
• Respect the child's thoughts and opinions.
• You are a role model for your teen. Set good examples. Show your kids how our lives are enriched by our values.
• Take advantage of teachable moments. Use topics like a friend's pregnancy or a TV show to begin a conversation.
• If your child asks a question and you don't know the answer, it's OK to say you don't know. Use the opportunity to learn something together.
• Don't use scare tactics as a way to stop teens from having sex - it doesn't work.
• Respect your teenager's privacy as much as your own. Ask questions but don't pry.
• Include discussions about sexual orientation and sexual abuse.
• Be clear about your values and let kids know that others may have different values about sexuality. Teach them that respect for differences is important.
• Let your kids know that you're available.

Adults - Here are some interview questions you can ask your teen to help facilitate talking about puberty.

• "What do you really like to do in your free time?"
• "How do you want to be treated as you become a teenager?" "Is there any way you want to be treated differently?"
• "Where have you gotten information about the changes that will happen to you during puberty?"
• "To be in a relationship it's important to know yourself and like yourself. What are some qualities you see in yourself that you like?"

Try to avoid de-valuing a child's question and/or situation.  Remember, it's ok not to have ALL the answers and to be a little embarrassed.  Sharing this feeling with a child will help them better understand the situation and feel ok if they are embarrassed too.  It's never too early to share medically accurate information!